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General Category => General Discussion => Topic started by: Jdmcfast on July 31, 2013, 02:39:35 PM

Title: Bad News
Post by: Jdmcfast on July 31, 2013, 02:39:35 PM
My grandmother has been suffering from deminsia for the last several years and has really lost it mentally. My grandpa has really stepped up and done a great job taking care of EVERYTHING, including her and the 10 acre farm they live on. My grandpa found out 4 weeks ago that he had lung cancer and was told to immediately go to a specialist. My mom brought him from their rural Missouri home to Wichita and they determined he had a tumor the size of a pack of cigarettes in his left lung, and a blood clot in his heart.
In the last few weeks he has been in and out of the hospital. His cancer in the first two weeks grew from the size of a pack of cigarettes to the size of an infants head! Since then we have found out that it is non-small cell rapid growing cancer and has spread to both lungs, heart, pancreas, adrenal glands, muscles, bones, skin, and inside one of his ears! He was given weeks to live as of last Monday. Since then they realized that what they thought was a clot partially blocking his aorta valve was actually cancer too and is growing so fast that yesterday they have him 3-6 days to live. Today they are releasing him from critical care to go home and basically die in the comfort of home.
My grandmother is so far gone she doesn't understand what is going on and despite being told dozens of times a day she still has to be told for the first time over and over again. I'm really worried that she will not make it without him especially if she has to relive his death over and over everyday! They have been happily married for 61 years. :(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(:(

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Title: Re: Bad News
Post by: PaulineMi on July 31, 2013, 04:12:16 PM
It's truly heartbreaking that your Grandparents, you and your family have to go through this.  I lost my Mom to Alzheimer's a few years ago and several family members to cancer.

If possible it would be very helpful to have hospice come in to help all of you through this difficult time. They are truly wonderful people.

My prayers and thoughts go out to you and your family.
Title: Re: Bad News
Post by: Mugwump on July 31, 2013, 04:24:05 PM
I'm sorry to hear that, Josh. It's sad news.

My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.
Title: Re: Bad News
Post by: Jdmcfast on July 31, 2013, 05:38:58 PM
Quote from: PaulineMi on July 31, 2013, 04:12:16 PM
It's truly heartbreaking that your Grandparents, you and your family have to go through this.  I lost my Mom to Alzheimer's a few years ago and several family members to cancer.

If possible it would be very helpful to have hospice come in to help all of you through this difficult time. They are truly wonderful people.

My prayers and thoughts go out to you and your family.

Hospice is here now they just got everything setup and I'm sitting with my grandparents while my mom and aunt go over all the paperwork and everything

Josh

Title: Re: Bad News
Post by: ilroost on July 31, 2013, 06:30:21 PM
So sorry Josh. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your grandparents
Title: Re: Bad News
Post by: JR on July 31, 2013, 06:35:58 PM
Very sorry Josh. Your Family will be in our prayers and thoughts
Title: Re: Bad News
Post by: Barb on July 31, 2013, 07:11:56 PM
Josh, I will keep you and your grandparents in my thoughts.  Your grandparents are fortunate to have such a caring grandson. 
Barb
Title: Re: Bad News
Post by: P4Angels2 on July 31, 2013, 08:06:18 PM
So sorry Josh. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your grandparents
Title: Re: Bad News
Post by: BallAquatics on August 01, 2013, 06:41:46 AM
Very sorry to hear such bad news Josh.  You and your family will be in our thoughts and prayers.

Dennis
Title: Re: Bad News
Post by: b125killer on August 01, 2013, 07:02:55 AM
I read this last night while I was at work and was thinking about it all night. There are no words I could think of to express how sorry I am.
My prayers and thought go out to you and your family.   
Title: Re: Bad News
Post by: shatanka on August 01, 2013, 11:08:05 AM
my sincerest thoughts and prayers to you and your family. i am so very sorry for what your grandfather and grandmother are going through. 61 years of a long happy marriage are a blessing to them both.
Title: Re: Bad News
Post by: Jdmcfast on August 02, 2013, 10:33:53 PM
Well the bad news became worse news. My grandfather finally gave up last night I had been sitting with him most of the day and I left to go get meds and clothes to spend the night and within ten minutes of me leaving he passed away. I got the call he turned around and zoomed back. Thankfully everyone had a chance to say their peace and tell him that we would be ok, and it was ok for him to let go, he was struggling to breathe so bad out was painful to watch. He is in a better place now

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Title: Re: Bad News
Post by: JR on August 02, 2013, 10:58:51 PM
So sorry Josh. Will say a prayer  for you and your family tonite
Title: Re: Bad News
Post by: b125killer on August 02, 2013, 11:16:18 PM
I am so sorry for your loss. My thoughts are with you and your family.
Title: Re: Bad News
Post by: Mugwump on August 03, 2013, 05:59:11 AM
I'm sad to hear that Josh, may he rest in peace.
Title: Re: Bad News
Post by: PaulineMi on August 03, 2013, 07:43:27 AM
I'm sorry to hear of your loss.  Your Grandfather is at peace now. You'll feel his presence in your heart from here on....

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Title: Re: Bad News
Post by: BallAquatics on August 03, 2013, 10:40:31 AM
My condolences to you and your family Josh.  We never really lose the people we love as they live on with us in our heart.

Dennis
Title: Re: Bad News
Post by: Barb on August 03, 2013, 06:17:07 PM
My deepest condolences Josh.  As others have said he is at peace now and will live forever in your heart.
Barb
Title: Re: Bad News
Post by: ilroost on August 03, 2013, 07:33:04 PM
So sorry Josh.
Title: Re: Bad News
Post by: Mir on August 06, 2013, 10:59:10 AM
Oh no! I'm just now reading all this and I'm so sorry for your loss! Sending good thoughts and prayers. <3
Title: Re: Bad News
Post by: wiggs on August 10, 2013, 06:47:41 AM
Sorry for your loss. He will always be in your heart.